Why Waiting for the Right Moment is Often a Mistake

Are you waiting for the perfect time to launch your grand plan?


We don’t like to wait in line, but we’re more than content to wait for some other things. Diets are commonly started on a Monday, or the first of the month, or the first of the year. It’s rare that someone chooses to start a diet right this very minute.

The same mindset applies to starting a business, going back to school, learning to play guitar, writing a book, or having a difficult conversation. We believe that challenging objectives require optimal conditions.

But all that’s really required is the courage to get started. Waiting is often an excuse when we feel fearful or uncertain.

The idea that perfect conditions are necessary is flawed:

1. Life is much too short. Eventually, we all run out of time. No one can wait forever. That doesn’t mean to be impulsive and throw all caution to the wind. It does mean, however, that it would benefit you to act soon.

2. Life will always get in the way. Waiting for the right moment is like saving the money you have left over at the end of the month. You’ll never have any time to spare, just as you’ll never have any money left over.

* Make time for the important things you want to do or accomplish. The longer you wait, the harder it can be to get started.

3. Waiting is passive. Each day is filled with unique moments. It’s not necessary to wait until the perfect storm of opportunity, convenience, and motivation finally occurs. You can create special moments whenever you choose. Plenty of good moments are happening each day, but you’re failing to make the most of them.

4. You don’t learn anything while you’re waiting. You’re not enhancing your skills or gaining any experience when you’re inactive. Make the most of right now and you’ll be better prepared for the future.

5. Avoid regret. Do you really have the time to spare? Those that wait too long are filled with regret at the end of life. Do you want to look back on your life and think, “If only I would have …”

* Few things are worse than regret, especially when you’re no longer in the position to do anything about it. You might still be able to climb a mountain or learn to play the piano at the age of 80, but it might be easier when you’re 45. You’ll also have more time to enjoy it!

6. Taking action results in a more exciting and fulfilled life. Taking action and failing is better than doing nothing at all. Even in failure, you’re learning, taking risks, and living life to the fullest. You’re better prepared for the future and gain a new perspective.

* Make your life interesting and fulfilling by deciding that right now is a good enough time to get started.

7. Waiting results in a lack of control. While you’re passively waiting for the perfect situation to occur, you’re giving away control of your life. One common symptom among those with depression is the belief that they lack control over their lives. Why wait? Take action now to create the life you want and take back your control.

Valuing yourself will result in valuing your time. When you value your time, you’ll begin to make the most of it. Every moment is important because you’re important. Avoid waiting any longer for the perfect moment to finally arrive. Get started today and create your own moments.

Who Else Wants to Stop Excess Snacking?

Maybe you’re a pro at planning balanced meals, but things go awry during the hours in between.

Excess snacking can put you over your daily calorie requirements and fill you up with sugar and other ingredients you’re trying to avoid.

Lose weight and protect your health by changing the way you snack. Check out this list of ideas about how to snack less and make smarter choices.

How to Snack Less

1. Be mindful. Are you surprised to find you’ve eaten half a cake when you really meant to have one slice? You’ll probably be satisfied with less food if you pay attention to each bite. Turn off the TV and chew slowly.

2. Leave the table. It’s difficult to tell when dinner ends and snacking starts if you sit around nibbling leftovers on the serving platters. Clear the table and go for a walk.

3. Have a hearty breakfast. Late night snacking could be a sign that you didn’t take in enough calories earlier in the day. Start with a nutritious breakfast like yogurt and cereal or an omelet stuffed with mushrooms and spinach.

4. Drink up. Thirst and hunger are often confused. The next time you want a cookie, drink a glass of water to see if the craving goes away.

5. Sleep well. Chronic fatigue can also make you want to eat. Go to bed on time and take a nap if you need to catch up on your sleep.

6. Chew gum. Sugar-free gum is an ideal snack. Satisfy your sweet tooth and enjoy chewing without consuming any calories. Gum even helps to clean up bacteria in your mouth in between brushing and flossing.

7. Keep a log. You may be snacking more than you think. Use your phone or a notebook to track what’s really going on.

8. Identify trigger foods. Many of us have certain foods that lower our inhibitions. Save French fries or donuts for special occasions if you tend to go overboard.

9. Manage stress. Are you eating to cover up difficult emotions? Call a friend or listen to soothing music instead. Run in the morning or go to the gym after work.

How to Snack Healthier

1. Reach for vegetables and fruits. A recent study suggests that eating 8 servings of produce a day dramatically increases happiness. Use snacks to help you reach your target.

2. Control portions. Most adults can indulge in any favorite treat as long as they keep the serving size reasonable. Learn to eyeball what an ounce of almonds or a cup of ice cream looks like.

3. Create substitutes. Do you long for something salty or sweet? Bake your own pita chips with garlic and olive oil. Sprinkle toasted oats with cinnamon and dark chocolate cocoa.

4. Stock up. Fill your refrigerator and kitchen cabinets with nutrient-dense foods you love. You can make healthy treats in minutes with baby carrots, celery sticks, low-fat yogurt, natural peanut butter, and hummus.

5. Avoid commercials. Advertising tends to promote ultra-processed foods high in sugar, salt, and saturated fats. Hit the mute button when you see TV commercials for candy bars and soda.

6. Plan ahead. Vending machines and gas stations are also full of foods that can derail your diet. Carry your own snacks in a cooler or plastic bags. Schedule a break for tea and half a sandwich when you’re out shopping or running errands.

Make your snacks work for you, keeping you full between meals and fueling up your body. Watch your calories and eat nutrient-dense foods that help you stay slim and strong.

What Jurassic Park Movies Can Teach You About Conflict Resolution

Jurassic Park sequels are more than just a good time. Along with the amazing beasts and scary chases you can pick up valuable lessons on conflict resolution.

After all, some negotiating principles are the same whether you’re trying to agree on how to outrun a pack of raptors or install a new computer system. Try these tips that have been helping to settle differences since the last ice age

Gain Trust.

When will InGen learn? They keep bringing in meaner mercenaries and bigger weapons when the dinosaurs rebel against being pushed around. Treating others with respect helps to prevent conflicts.

1. Listen closely. Start by paying attention to what others have to say. Trying to understand their position will help you find common ground. Ask relevant questions and restate what others say to ensure you’re on the same page.

2. Share information. Show others that you’re willing to trust them by being transparent. Disclose as much as you can about pertinent facts and your own motivation.

3. Offer compromises. You’ll enjoy a deeper satisfaction and create more stability if you search for solutions that each party can feel good about. Be willing to let go of some things you want if it helps the group.

4. Stay calm. Anger and blame interfere with progress. Take a break if you need to cool off. You can assert your needs while being civil and tactful. Staying cool helps you to look more confident and capable.

Reach Out for Help

When you’re having a friendly argument with an Indominus Rex, you might need to call in someone with more teeth. With a little luck, you’ll be able to find team members who are less unruly than a T-Rex.

1. Collaborate with others. Cooperating is more productive than choosing sides. Think about the good qualities of others even when you disagree with them.

2. Consult experts. Impartial observers and skilled negotiators may help you uncover new options if you’re at an impasse. A fresh set of eyes can remind you that there are usually many solutions to a challenge if you’re flexible and creative.

3. Express gratitude. Think of conflicts as opportunities to grow instead of feeling threatened. Thank the other participants for their efforts to help move things forward.

Accept Reality

Conflicts often start when we care more about getting what we want instead of facing the truth or considering the welfare of others. If you can’t control ordinary dinosaurs, you’re probably going to run into trouble if you genetically modify them to become bigger and scarier.

1. Delay gratification. Having the patience to work for your future self and the greater good is the key to happiness and success. Shrug off temporary disappointments and setbacks as long as you stay true to your major objectives.

2. Aim for realistic goals. Ambitious targets can be inspiring as long as they’re still within reach. Make the most of your resources by sticking to projects that allow you to deliver results. Others will be more likely to support you if they see that you have an impressive track record.

3. Set priorities. Even when you have a valid case, you need to pick your battles. Keep your eye on the big picture. Ask yourself if you’d rather prove you’re right or hold onto an important relationship.

Dinosaurs ruled the earth for a lot longer than humans have been around, so it makes sense that they might know something about how to live peacefully with each other. Face conflicts head on, and work together to develop agreements that stand up to the test of time.

Top 5 Excuses for Not Going After Your Dreams

What are you waiting for?

You have plans and aspirations that you’ve been putting off for years. We’re great at putting things off and convincing ourselves that we’ll get them done someday soon. Eventually, we all run out of somedays and our options become more limited. If you’re not enthusiastically pursuing your goals, there’s a reason. And it might not be the reason you think.

Most excuses are actually a form of fear camouflaged as another challenge.

Identify your excuses and take action today:

1. A perceived lack of resources. Perhaps you need additional knowledge, education, money, or time. This is the most common excuse for not taking action. These excuses might be accurate. You might not have enough time. However, it’s up to you to make the time. It’s up to you to find the money you need.

* A lack of resources can’t stop you if you’re determined. Using the lack of resources as an excuse suggests another underlying issue.

* Find a way around your lack of resources. There’s a solution available to you right now if you want to find it.

2. Your belief that you’ll fail. Maybe you’re not afraid of failing, but you anticipate failure. No one would waste their time taking action if they expected a negative outcome. Use every tool at your disposal to change your belief. Try using logic or convince yourself that you’ll give it a try anyway. Meditation, self-hypnosis, and visualization are other possible options.

* Get expert advice or consider changing your objective to one that’s more believable.

3. Fear. The is the most accurate answer most of the time. Doing something significant involves change, both the change that results from success and the chance necessary to create success.

* The most effective way to combat fear is to jump in with both feet. The apprehension that results from thinking about taking the first step is more severe than the apprehension that accompanies real action. Once you get started, the fear subsides considerably.

* Fear has been around since the beginning of man. It’s not going away, so it’s important to build your ability to manage it.

4. A lack of motivation. Why aren’t you motivated? Is it due to fear or something else? A little success can create motivation. Starting a diet can be challenging, but your motivation grows after you’ve successfully lost 10 pounds.

* The solution to a lack of motivation is the same as the solution to fear: take the leap. Get started and hang in there until you’ve experienced some success. At that point, you’ll find that your lack of motivation is no longer an issue.

5. The need for perfection. This could be the need to have ideal conditions before getting started or the need to accomplish your goal without experiencing any failure along the way. Perfectionism is just another manifestation of fear masquerading as a socially acceptable excuse.

* There is no failure, provided you don’t give up. Expect that things won’t work out 100% according to plan. Accept this fact and move ahead.

* Take action. Taking action is the best way to reduce your fear. You don’t need to be perfect. You only need to be “good enough.”

If you’ve been finding reasons to put off your plans to some unidentified point in the future, it’s time to examine the reasons. Fear is the biggest reason for chronic procrastination. It’s your responsibility to determine why you’ve been waiting. By finding an explanation, you can begin to take motivated action and see your dreams come true.

Top 5 Biggest Mistakes You Can Make When Changing Your Life

Changing your life is serious business.

As far as we know, you only get one life. Making the most out of your life is a form of taking responsibility for the way it turns out. But there are many common mistakes made by those seeking to make significant life changes.

Avoid these mistakes as you work toward changing your life for the better:

1. The belief that you have to change everything. Your life probably isn’t that bad. Make a list of things you’d like to change and then prioritize the list. Put your energy into changing the one item that’s most important to you. If you’re still dissatisfied, move down to the second item on your list.

* Everything affects everything else. You might find that after changing a couple of things that you’re happy with the other aspects of your life.

* Trying to change everything is a recipe for disaster. Your entire life will be in chaos and making multiple changes is much more difficult to manage successfully than making one change.

2. Doing it for others. On some level, we feel a need to impress others. We consider how our career choice will appear to others. We wonder if our friends will approve of our choice of a mate. We purchase a car with some intention of showing off to our friends, family, and neighbors.

* If you make changes for everyone else, you’ll eventually be resentful. You’ll realize that no part of your life is exactly the way you want it. There’s no emptier feeling that working hard to impress others and succeeding. You quickly realize that you’ve made a huge mistake.

3. Believing that money is the answer to all your challenges. As great as having money is for providing necessities, there are just as many things that money can’t purchase: love, friendship, a shoulder to cry on, a purpose for your life, joy, and more.

4. Believing that a relationship is the answer to all your issues. If you’re lonely, bored, and lost, it’s common to believe that a relationship is the answer to your troubles. But there are many flaws with this type of thinking.

* A relationship created under this context is formed on a negative concept. A relationship is for sharing, not for solving a challenge.

* When you have a lot of challenges, your choice of potential partners is limited. Emotionally healthy people look for others with similar qualities.

* Create a life that excites you. Then find someone that you can share it with. A relationship ought to be the last step in changing your life, not the first.

5. Not having a purpose. Why do you want to make these changes? What is the underlying theme? If you have a driving purpose for the changes, decisions are easier to make.

* Are you seeking greater freedom?
* Do you want to make a bigger impact on the world?
* Are you rearranging your life so can go back to school?
* Are you downsizing for retirement?

Most people are content to play the hand that life deals to them. There are few things more noble than taking control of your life and making positive changes. But many people put in a lot of work to change their lives, only to feel disappointed in the end. For your best success, know why you’re changing and be congruent in your decisions.

Taking a Leave of Absence Without Derailing Your Career

For most of your working life, you’ll probably juggle your responsibilities at home and the office, but sometimes personal issues demand your full attention.

Maybe you’re expecting twins or undergoing major surgery. Maybe you’re joining the army or going back to school temporarily.

A leave of absence can be the ideal solution for such major life events. However, it’s important to take precautions so you’ll be able to resume your career when things settle down.

After all, life is full of uncertainties. One day you’re paying for monthly parking, and the next you could be considering taking an extended break from your job. Use these ideas for taking time off without sacrificing future opportunities.

Planning Your Leave of Absence

1. Save money. Unless you’re on disability, you probably won’t receive any pay while you’re away from work. Build up your cash reserves in advance. Reduce your housing expenses if possible. Cook at home instead of dining out.

2. Research your rights. You may be legally entitled to some forms of leave, especially if you’re covered by the Family and Medical Leave Act that allows up to 12 weeks of unpaid leave each year if you or your immediate family have a serious health condition or you’re having a baby. Check your employee manual or speak with your HR department.

3. Weigh the consequences. Clarify what level of job protection you’re provided. With mandated leave, there’s usually a guarantee you’ll be reinstated. With voluntary leave, you could be terminated if there’s no suitable opening available when you return.

4. Cover your responsibilities. Assure your boss that you care about your job. Present proposals for how to cover your tasks while you’re out.

5. Give prompt notice. Let your employer know about your plans as soon as possible. Cooperating on a smooth transition will help everyone to adapt to the changes.

Taking Your Leave of Absence

1. Provide updates. Keep your boss in the loop. Tell them about any developments in your medical condition or other circumstances that would affect your return to work.

2. Remain accessible. Of course, your situation will impact your co-workers as well as your boss. If you’re able to stay in touch, give a trusted team member your contact information so you can answer questions as they come up.

3. Stay active. Look for ways to minimize gaps on your resume. If your condition allows, do volunteer work or take on consulting assignments. Join a committee at your professional association.

4. Protect your health. For some workers, staying home can be more stressful than keeping up their usual 9 to 5 routine. Pay extra attention to eating a balanced diet, exercising daily, and sleeping well. Spend time with family and friends.

Returning From Your Leave of Absence

1. Contact your employer. Thank your employer for accommodating you and let them know that you’re eager to be back on the job. Discuss what would be the most productive way for you to catch up.

2. Modify your job. In some cases, you may need to make a phased return to work. Ask your employer about altering your hours or responsibilities or adapting your workspace.

3. Negotiate offers. What about job hunting after a leave of absence if you decide to move on or your employer needs to terminate you because there are no immediate openings? Find out what salary range is appropriate for your skills, and rehearse a brief explanation of the situation that you can deliver with confidence when you go on interviews.

Preparing for emergencies gives you peace of mind and more control over your future. Collaborate with your employer so you can maintain your professionalism while taking off the time you need for personal obligations.

Slow Down and Get More Done in Less Time

Are you feeling stressed and overwhelmed? Maybe that’s because you’re pushing yourself too hard.

Being in a constant rush lowers your energy levels and deprives you of satisfaction. You’re ticking off boxes on your task list instead of engaging in meaningful activities.

It’s time to start accomplishing more with greater ease. Consider these 3 steps the next time you’re straining to hurry up.

Do Less

1. Set priorities. Figure out your definition of success. Devote as much time and energy as possible to the activities that matter to you. Cut back on making commitments that are irrelevant to your goals. Learn to tactfully say no to distractions.

2. Budget your time. Be realistic about what you can accomplish in a single day. If you’re frequently falling behind schedule, track how much time some of your routine tasks really take. Block out your time and give yourself a buffer between engagements.

3. Adjust your standards. Know when good enough is acceptable. Maybe you want to aim for an A plus when it comes to parenting, but you can live with a B minus on washing your car.

Be Mindful

1. Plan your day. Know where your time is going. Act deliberately instead of drifting from one external demand to the next.

2. Live in the present. Give your full attention to what you’re currently doing. Silence your phone and resist the urge to check for messages. Notice your surroundings and savor your experiences.

3. Remember your purpose. Stir up your enthusiasm by remembering the reasoning behind your choices. Does your job enable you to help others? Do you take pleasure in volunteering for a good cause or spending time with friends?

4. Workout. A fit body supports a strong mind. Keep time in your schedule to exercise regularly. Incorporate more physical activity into your day. You’ll feel more peppy and alert.

5. Rest and relax. A few minutes of meditation, stretching, or repeating affirmations can help you pace yourself. Learn to be comfortable with taking a break.

Ask for help

1. Divide chores. Sharing household responsibilities is good for your marriage and your children. Talk with your partner about how you can work as a team to complement each other’s strengths. Praise your kids for taking on age-appropriate chores. Even small children can set the table or put away their toys.

2. Be a good neighbor. Each family on the block could buy and maintain a snow blower or you could pool your funds to share one so it costs less time and money to prepare for an occasional blizzard. Join a neighborhood committee or browse for apps that help busy neighbors support each other.

3. Consult an expert. You may want to hire a professional who can clean your house or fix your dishwasher faster than you can. If you prefer doing things yourself, you can still seek advice on time-saving tips and techniques.

4. Follow up. Maybe you already have family and friends who’ve offered to assist you when you need a little help. Accept their generosity instead of clinging to your pride or feeling like you have to do it all on your own. Be prepared to return the favor.

5. Be specific. Wherever you turn for help, it pays to be precise. Let others know what you need to be done.

Slow down and get more done. When you’re feeling under pressure, change your strategy instead of speeding up. Take a few deep breaths and count your blessings. Your to-do list will look less daunting, and you’ll be more productive.


Practice the Pareto Principle and Reap the Results You Seek in Your Life

The 80/20 Rule, or Pareto Principle, probably isn’t new to you.

The Pareto Principle is the idea that 80% of your results come from 20% of your actions. You wear 20% of your clothes 80% of the time. The top 20% of sales people make 80% of the sales. It’s a powerful concept that can be used to change your life quickly.

Use the 80/20 Rule to create the life you desire:

1. Realize that your instinct is to focus on the 80% of your options that provide minimal results. The Pareto principle isn’t for the weak-hearted. The easy, comfortable actions we prefer are those that provide little in the way of results. The most meaningful actions are less comfortable.

* For example, switching to fat-free doughnuts isn’t too hard, but it also won’t lead to a lot of weight loss. Leaving the dinner table when you’re still a little hungry each night for 6 months is more challenging, but will make a huge difference.

2. It can be applied to nearly any area of your life. 80% of your happiness comes from 20% of your actions. What if you arranged your life so you could spend more time on that 20%? By the same token, 80% of the grief in your life comes from 20% of the people in your life. What if you could limit or eliminate them from your life?

3. The 80/20 principle saves a lot of time. By focusing on the actions that make the biggest difference, you can save a tremendous amount of time.

* It’s all about efficiency. Consider each part of your life and make a list of the most important actions you take. These are the vital few actions that make most of the difference.

4. Ask yourself the important questions, using the 80/20 principle. Then, you’ll have enough information to make a huge change in your life. You know what makes you happy, who makes you happy, and what creates your success. You also know which things and people are obstacles to these objectives.

* Which 20% of my activities cause 80% of my stress?
* Which 20% of my activities lead to 80% of my happiness?
* Which 20% of my friends do I enjoy the most?
* Which 20% of my friends cause the most pain?
* Which 20% of my skills account for 80% of my success?
* Which 20% of my beliefs cause 80% of my grief?

5. Begin to apply the principle to your life. What are you trying to accomplish? Let’s imagine that you own a business and want to apply the Pareto Principle.

* 20% of your employees do 80% of the work. You’d better treat them well to ensure they don’t leave!

* 20% of your employees cause 80% of the problems. You might want to show them the door.

* 20% of your customers provide 80% of your profits. Cater to these customers.

* 20% of your actions created 80% of your customers. Focus on those actions to gain new customers.

* 20% of the actions you take provide 80% of the value you’re creating at work. Spend more time on that 20%.

The 80/20 principle can be applied to any part of your life you wish to change. You’ll save a tremendous amount of time and get more accomplished. Ensure that you’re spending your time on the activities that can create the biggest impact.

Overcome These 6 Obstacles and Get Your Life Back Under Control

With so many moving parts, it’s easy for life to get out of control.

This imbalance is caused by putting undue focus on certain priorities to an extent that pushes out your other priorities. A life that’s under control is also well-balanced.

Regain your balance and get back at the helm of a life you desire with these strategies:

1. Possessions. It’s easy to get your life out of balance if you’ve been overly focused on possessions. You’re more likely to incur debt. You also might be feeling empty inside. The rush of owning a Ferrari eventually wear off. Avoid chasing possessions as a source of happiness.

* By the same token, if you don’t have the possessions you require, life is also unbalanced. Reliable transportation, suitable clothing, and a phone are a few possessions that are worth having.

* Avoid letting possessions control your life, but ensure that you have what you need.

2. Your appearance and health. Focusing on your health is a worthwhile use of your attention. But too many people are overly concerned with their appearance. Everyone that lives long enough eventually looks old. What will you do then?

* You still have the option of feeling good about yourself, even if you’re not as attractive by the stereotypical standards as some people are. Everyone has their own unique beauty.

* Paying attention to your health and accepting your appearance will put this aspect of your life into balance.

3. Finances. Many people tie their self-image to their income. This isn’t a healthy or well-balanced approach. Money and happiness also don’t correlate above an income of $75k. Avoid basing your self-esteem on how much money you make.

* Having too little money can also throw your life out of balance. If you don’t have enough money to reliably pay your bills and feed your family, there’s going to be stress. Focus on generating the income you need, but avoid giving money more attention than it deserves.

4. Relationships. Relationships are important, but they’re not the only thing in life. Putting all your emphasis on a relationship can limit other aspects of your life.

* Relationships can be a significant source of both pleasure and stress. If your life is feeling out of control, examine your relationships and determine if changes are warranted.

5. Career. This tends to affect men more than women. Men seem to define themselves by their careers. How many times have you been asked, “What do you do?” And we’d love to say we’re a cardiothoracic surgeon instead of a plumber. But why does it matter?

* Give work enough priority that you’re able to be successful in your chosen field, and remember that you’re more than your job title.

6. Reputation. Once we start school, we’re obsessed with the opinions of others. Carrying this attitude into adulthood can create challenges.

* Let go of the need to be admired by everyone. If your friends and family admire you, you’re doing better than most.

It’s all about balance. Try to find the middle path. We all need money, but no one needs $10 million. It’s not having $10 million that’s the problem. It’s the unreasonable pursuit of it. Find balance in your work, relationships, and possessions. Get your life back under control by seeking balance.

New Help for Parents of Quiet Students

As the parent of a quiet child, you may be concerned about how they’re treated in the classroom.

You know that your child is gifted and curious, but their teacher may be lowering their grades because they don’t understand your child’s personality. They think your child’s silence is a sign they’re disengaged when they’re actually deep in thought.

The good news is that some education experts are beginning to see the light. They’re focusing more on learning and less on talking.

Take advantage of these trends so you can nurture your child’s strengths while preparing them to succeed in any environment. Consider these suggestions for steps you can take at home and with your child’s teacher.

Steps to Take with Your Child

Studies show that introverts can be just as happy and productive as extroverts. Raise your child to thrive as their authentic self.

1. Validate their experiences. Introverts may have to work harder to achieve recognition. Boost your child’s resilience by listening attentively to what they have to say, and expressing compassion.

2. Find their passions. It’s natural for any student to open up when they feel enthusiastic about the subject. Help your child to explore their interests.

3. Offer positive feedback. Praise your sons and daughters for making an effort. Guide them by pointing out specific signs of progress.

4. Model assertiveness. Quiet students may need help sticking up for themselves. Demonstrate how to resolve conflicts and ask for what you need.

5. Proceed gradually. Introverts typically prefer to spend more time thinking before acting. Be patient and allow your child to proceed at their own pace. Their deliberate process probably produces superior results even if it takes a little longer.

Steps to Take with Your Child’s School

There’s a tendency for teachers to feel more comfortable with talkative children. If you suspect that your child is being placed at a disadvantage, encourage reforms that create a more inclusive classroom.

1. Explain the science. Your child’s teacher may be more receptive if you describe the biological evidence of differences between extroverts and introverts. Ideally, children can learn on their own terms instead of conforming to one standard.

2. Break into groups. Discussion groups and project teams help students to develop closer relationships and deepen learning. Kids can practice solving problems, and there’s less chance that a few students will dominate the conversation.

3. Try peer teaching. Students teaching each other is an especially powerful technique. Children master the subject matter while developing presentation skills.

4. Schedule pauses. By requiring a brief silence before answering, teachers can encourage thoughtful responses. It also gives more kids a chance to weigh in.

5. Move around. Experiment with formats that encourage socializing and natural conversation. Walking around the athletic track instead of sitting at a desk may stimulate a livelier discussion of calculus proofs or classic novels. Looking at a colorful poster may lead to comments and questions.

6. Create quiet spaces. While introverts have a greater need for solitude, any student can benefit from a place to rest and reflect. Campaign for expanding library hours or installing more benches and fountains around the campus.

7. Use social media. Facebook and Twitter offer this generation of quiet students new ways to participate at school. Kids can polish up an insightful comment instead of feeling pressured to talk fast and loud.

Every child deserves a quality education based on teaching methods that adapt to a wide range of personalities. Prepare your child for a bright future by building up their confidence and advocating for schools that serve the needs of all children.